Let grief flow
Cocreating ceremonies for death, dying, grief and loss.
“Kiri was wonderful to work with, she listened with warm generosity, giving space for all that needed to be said and felt…
Her acceptance and acknowledgement of our love cleared the way for my grief to begin to flow freely after having been shamed by my family at the time of his death. ”
An unacknowledged widow
Grief plumber manifesto
Grief is grief – no matter how big or how small, all grief is equally worthy of being acknowledged and felt.
All the feelings – grief includes anger, sadness, fear and joy. We don’t try to make you “feel better” by taking you out of your experience, we hold space for you to feel all that is alive in you as much or as little as you need.
Grief needs community – grief moves when it’s expressed, witnessed and shared with others in a strong container.
It’s never too late – whether the loss happened a week ago, a decade ago or a hundred years ago it is never too late to mourn it. The unwept tears can still be shed, the unspoken words can still be said.
Your experience is yours – no one else can tell you how you feel or what to do with it. Other people can make suggestions but at the end of the day, you know what will work best for you.
Here for the hard things – when loss has come through violent or shocking means, grief can be complex. We companion folks who are navigating that complexity, holding space for them to tell their story on their terms. We support communities to be with the diversity of responses and perspectives that arise in the wake of a complex loss.
It’s about love – our capacity to grieve defines our capacity to love. Turning towards death brings an awareness of the preciousness of life. Talking about death with those you love can honour and deepen your relationships.
Keen to receive information on events and workshops (and occasional musings about grief and death)?
We’d love to stay in touch.
Or make contact to:
- talk about grief, death and loss,
- connect with others who are interested in these topics,
- get support to consider your own mortality,
- arrange after death care for a loved one,
- have Kiri and her team work with you to cocreate a funeral or grief ceremony.
What people are saying
“In Kiri’s presence, my sadness is allowed to flow. It is like unblocking my own healing waters, cleansing and clearing my connection to my heart. Kiri also provides a lot of clarity in her spaceholding and offers an abundance of nonlinear possibilities.”
— Julia N.
“I’m so grateful to have had someone to walk with through what, at times felt like unpassable terrain. I strongly encourage anyone who might be journeying with loss to reach out to Kiri for help in unravelling death’s multifaceted gifts. “
— Lucy A.
The importance of grief
Listen to Kiri Bear in conversation with Julia Neumann on the Radically Alive Women edgecast.
I asked Julia to interview me about my passions and she later chose to turn our conversation into a podcast (with my permission). It touches on some challenging topics such as murder and suicide in the context of a conversation about community responses to grief, death and care.
It is my intention to speak openly about these things to create more capacity for care in our community. Please make contact with me if you would like further conversation on this.
Grief Plumbers 